幼儿英语早教----自信心的培养（2）

 幼儿英语早教----自信心的培养

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幼儿英语早教----自信心的培养

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1. Reasons for the lack of self-confidence in children

(1) family education thought and education behavior are a major factor in children's lack of self-confidence

1. Too many caring and over-protective families

When young children to explore with a desire for knowledge around the world, adult children like to do our best to take care of and arranged instead of protection, in fact, a kind of restriction, deprived children's training and development opportunities, killing the infant's ability to prove myself and develop towards independent living desire, on the one hand, a distrust caused by children, in the long term, in their children's mind and in the shadow the inferiority and doubt their own ability, on the other hand, the children lack of self-care ability of life not only, and the lack of independent activities and the ability to solve the problem, everything is to rely on others, once encountered difficulties was at a loss, and thus more likely to suffer setbacks, failures, so a vicious circle, formation of inferiority mentality.

It is because of these parents always spoil, pamper and excessive intervention in the protection of children, arranged to replace and add to the children's dependent psychology, worries of clothing to hand, turned lazy, they will retreat, constrained the formation of children's self-confidence.

幼儿英语早教----自信心的培养

2. Too much expectation, too much denial

The famous psychologist A? Adler is pointed out that the high expectations of adults is also the important cause of infant self-abased psychology, some parents do not consider the child's interest, desire and actual ability level, blindly for young children to grow in their own design orbit, high expectations and requirements for young children, they always lay particular stress on intellectual education, one thousand party hundreds severs strictly to instill knowledge, teach literacy, arithmetic, practice the piano, overtime, holidays is not relaxed, plus the method is sim, rough, often blame kids stupid, resentment child lazy, and young children due to the limitation of the knowledge economy and various aspects ability, often difficult to meet the high requirements, this will make children have continued failure of frustration, "I can't" negative emotional experience accumulation, and often by self-doubt and then towards the inferiority. "Some parents always hope their children always stronger than others, wont transverse comparison, shortcomings and the advantages of the other children and their children, compared to negative, negative evaluation, this will make the child produces' themselves than others' feeling, doubt my ability, think you stupid brain, ability is poor, thus seriously affect the formation of the establishment of a positive self-image and confidence." 5.

幼儿英语早教----自信心的培养

3. Excessive indoctrination, young children lack the opportunity to explore

In terms of education children, parents and teachers often underestimate young children's learning ability, implanted in children too much, as a way of education has great limitations, on the one hand, the effectiveness of the performance in transmission of knowledge is poor, instill young children not only lack of hands-on practice of society and the lack of peo think, guess, and young children's thinking an intuitive action and specific iconicity. Does not pass through from thinking, operation and practice, it is impossible to own understanding, on the other hand, the young children unable to exercise and develop my ability, don't feel their abilities, experience the joy of success, is not conducive to the formation of self-confidence.

幼儿英语早教----自信心的培养

4. Parents' words

For children, parents in their minds occupies an extremely important status, parents' words, often an enormous impact on the child's psychological, parents often encourage children, full of confidence to them, children will be full of confidence to oneself, in the face of difficulties don't flinch, on the other hand, will let the child be disappointed, frustrated, lack of confidence to oneself, they will wince, even escape, which have ventilation difficult challenges. Now parents pay little attention to these, however, they are too care about the child's intellectual performance and academic achievements, some children don't live up to the expectations of parents, the parents of the hair can't hold their mouths, regardless of the child's self-esteem, no matter whether there is a stranger in, mouth is PiTouGaiNao big scold, or even the appearance of children being scolded, "eyes so small, just like your father!" "How can you be so stupid, a pig's head?" "If only my hair were as clever as your baby!" "And so on, not only did it fail to achieve the desired effect, but it also dampened the child's self-esteem. In the long run, it is not conducive to the growth of young children.

幼儿英语早教----自信心的培养

  1。孩子缺乏自信的原因

(1)家庭教育思想和教育行为是孩子缺乏自信的主要因素

1。太多的关心和过分保护的家庭

当幼儿探索与世界各地的对知识的渴望,成年子女喜欢做我们 好的照顾和安排,而不是保护,事实上,一种限制,剥夺了孩子们的培训和发展机会,杀死婴儿的证明自己的能力和发展走向独立生活的欲望,一方面,不信任造成的孩子,从长远来看,在孩子们的头脑和自卑的阴影,怀疑自己的能力,另一方面,孩子们不仅缺乏生活自理能力,而缺乏独立活动和解决问题的能力,一切都是依赖他人,一旦遇到困难是亏本,因此更容易遭受挫折,失败,所以一个恶性循环,形成自卑心理。

这是因为这些父母总是溺爱、纵容和过度干涉孩子的保护，安排好去代替和增加孩子们的依赖性心理，对衣服的担忧，变得懒惰，他们会退缩，限制孩子们的自信心的形成。

2。太多的期望，太多的否定

著名的心理学家?Adler指出成人的高期望也婴儿自卑心理的重要原因,一些家长不考虑孩子的兴趣,愿望和实际能力水平,盲目地让孩子生长在自己的设计轨道,年幼的孩子很高的期望和需求,他们总是偏重智育,一千方百计塞维严格灌输知识,教识字、算术,练习钢琴,加班、假期不放松,加上方法简单,粗糙,常怪孩子笨,怨恨孩子懒惰,和幼儿由于知识经济和各方面能力的限制,往往难以满足高要求,这将使孩子们继续失败的沮丧,“我不能”的负面情感体验积累,然后经常被自我怀疑和自卑。“一些父母总是希望他们的孩子总是比别人,不会横向比较,缺点和其他的孩子和他们的孩子的优点,相对于消极的,负面的评价,这将会使孩子产生自己比他人的感觉,怀疑我的能力,认为你愚蠢的大脑,能力差,因此严重影响建立一个积极的自我形象的形成和信心。“5。

幼儿英语早教----自信心的培养

3。过度的教化，儿童缺乏探索的机会

在教育孩子方面,家长和老师经常低估了孩子的学习能力,植入太多,孩子的教育有很大的局限性,一方面,在传授知识的有效性表现差,灌输孩子不仅缺乏动手实践的社会和人们认为的缺乏,想,和幼儿的思维直观的行动和具体形象性。不通过思考，操作和实践，不可能有自己的理解，另一方面，孩子不能锻炼和发展我的能力，不觉得他们的能力，体验成功的喜悦，不利于形成自信。

4。父母的言语

为了孩子,父母在他们心目中占有极其重要的地位,父母的话说,常常对孩子的心理产生巨大的影响,父母经常鼓励孩子们,对他们充满信心,孩子会对自己充满信心,面对困难不退缩,另一方面,会让孩子感到失望,沮丧,对自己缺乏信心,他们会退缩,甚至逃避,通风困难的挑战。现在父母很少注意到这些,但是,他们太关心孩子的智力表现和学术成就,有些孩子不辜负父母的期望,父母的头发,管不住自己的嘴,不管孩子的自尊,无论是否有陌生人,嘴是PiTouGaiNao大骂,甚至孩子骂的样子,眼睛很小,就像你的父亲!“你怎么这么笨，猪的头?”“要是我的头发像你的孩子一样聪明就好了!”“等等，不仅没有达到预期的效果，而且还挫伤了孩子的自尊。”从长远来看，这不利于孩子的成长。

幼儿英语早教----自信心的培养

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